Who texts more in your chat
It's the question everyone wonders about and nobody measures. You feel like you're always the one texting first, or always waiting on a reply — but it's a feeling. A WhatsApp export turns that feeling into numbers.
The four signals that matter
Counting messages isn't enough. Whoever sends more might just be the one who writes shorter. These four actually say something:
Volume
Messages and words from each person. The gap between the two is telling: someone can send twice the messages and half the words.
Reply time
How long each person takes to answer, measured as a median rather than an average — one message answered three days later wrecks an average and tells you nothing.
Who opens
How often each person breaks the silence. If one person starts 80% of the conversations, that's a fairly clear pattern.
Streaks
Messages sent in a row with no reply. It's the most direct sign of imbalance: one person pushing while the other isn't picking up.
What the numbers mean (and what they don't)
Worth being straight about this: these describe a texting pattern, not a feeling.
Someone might reply in two hours because their phone stays in a drawer at work, not because they care less. Someone might text twice as much simply because that's how they text with everyone. And a relationship that's even in person doesn't have to be even over chat.
What they're good for is spotting a pattern that holds over time, and checking whether what you felt had anything behind it. Sometimes it confirms the hunch. Sometimes it takes it apart, which is just as useful.
How to see it in your chat
Export the conversation as a .txt and upload it here. It's processed in your browser — the file is never sent to a server.
You'll get the per-person breakdown of all four signals, plus activity by hour, emoji, and the words each person repeats most.
If you're not sure how to export, there's a step-by-step guide for Android and iPhone.
Works for groups too
In a group the same numbers mean something different: who carries the conversation, who only shows up when tagged, and who went quiet months ago.